This fall I am setting out on the grand adventure of home education with my oldest daughter for the second year in a row.
I am so grateful for the past year we have had together as she sits on the verge of young adulthood.
One of the most inspiring books I read last summer as I prepared to develop her syllabus was The Brave Learner by Julie Bogart. I picked up the book eager to soak in new strategies, creativity and the ethics of home education.
While I certainly encountered all that and more, I went away most inspired to be a brave, curious learner myself. The kind of person who wonders, explores, imagines and creates for pure joy. The kind of person who dares to step out into brand new territory with excitement and courage. The kind of person who inspires those around her to learn and grow bravely amidst the opportunities that abundantly come our way.
Julie Bogart’s passion is not only to encourage brave learning in our children but to model that out of our own brave and curious lives.
If you are a mom reading this, please go back and read that again. Not just skimming this time. Let it sink in.
Do you live this way?
Has it even occurred to you to live this way?
To model a brave and curious lifestyle to your children.
Something in my soul woke up and gasped for air when I immersed myself in this incredibly daring idea that I could continue to be a brave, curious individual with ideas, creativity and soul food of my own.
In the busyness of everyday life, I often forget that I am a person outside of my children, husband and home.
Don’t get me wrong, I love being a mom and I am a firm believer that to do this mothering thing well you must be willing to sacrifice huge parts of yourself and learn how to grow inside of this role. Embracing that this will take up the entirety of your life for a season is crucial.
However, the longer I mother, the more I understand and grieve this idea that women lose themselves in the years of toting toddlers and helping with homework and grocery shopping and load after load of laundry .
When is the last time you did something all your own that made your soul stir with feelings of bravery, pride, fear, anticipation or freedom?
Do your children see you laughing, learning and wondering?
Do they see you attempting, failing, striving, persevering in the face of difficulty?
Do they catch glimpses of you that make them see you with new eyes and wonder who you are? Do you help them look forward to adulthood by the way you are living today?
Do they have something to admire and aspire to when they catch a glimpse of your life?
This made me stop and reanalyze my priorities.
Suddenly it mattered that I had laid aside passions and dreams of my own and let them slip out of sight.
The more I read, the more convinced I became that in order to teach my children well and lead them on this adventure of learning, I needed to take some time back for myself. I needed to place some of my own passions back in center field so that I could show them what it looks like to learn and discover, create and strive toward something. I needed them to see what it looked like to set goals and work hard to achieve them; to believe in myself and to be confident in the talents I’ve been given. I want them to remember a joyful, passionate, brave mama. I want them to look back someday and remember me laughing and creating and daring. I want them to think about me when they read those verses in the Bible that talk about abundant life!
Endeavor.
Create.
Wonder.
Imagine.
I encourage you to let each of those words sink in and decide which one of those you most want to model to your children.
Then take a deep breath, and jump.
Take lessons.
Go back to school.
Set time aside to pursue your passion.
Read.
Face your fear and learn to breathe.
Go somewhere you have never been before.
Make a career plan.
Be honest with your partner.
Pray.
Grieve what you’ve sacrificed and count the costs worthy.
Cry.
Surrender the pieces you’ve lost and embrace the pieces you’ve encountered along the way.
This is not just the latest boss babe, women empowerment, girls rule speech…this is about you living life abundantly, utilizing every part of who you are for His glory.
Pray for wisdom from your Creator to know what it is that He is stirring up within your soul and for the courage to pursue it boldly.
You, sweet Mama, matter.
Nobody else can quite replicate your particular part of His image, and that is a vision the world needs to see. The little eyes watching you are waiting for glimpses of that glory. They are waiting for instruction on how to live out this one, brave, beautiful life He has placed within you.
Not because you are something extremely special or because you deserve happiness above all else.
No.
It’s because of Him, and the life He has intended for you.
“She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.”
Proverbs 31:35
-AF
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