So this is me being honest and letting you all know that even though we’re pretty excited about our new family of 4…we’re normal. Not every day is rainbows and shimmer.
Right now I am hiding downstairs in my jammies while my husband builds a tree house with the girls and let me tell you I am just drinking in the quietness here! Some days I am full of energy and happiness and amazement…and other days I’m just plain old tired. Also…my personal bubble is nonexistent these days which sometimes makes this Mama Queen of the Grumps! Wiry little arms hugging, pulling, yanking and poking at me all day long. Affectionate? Yes…but Mommy is not always in the mood for affection. Mommy is not always in the mood for silly, nonsensical chatter and stinky morning breath in my face. Mommy is not always in the mood for bony little bodies jumping on me. Mommy is not always in the mood for whiny little voices following me all over the kitchen as I try to get everything done that needs to be done between 5 and 6pm. Mommy is not always in the mood for markers all over the floor, glue on the table and macaroni bracelets in the bathroom sink. Mommy is not always in the mood for little bodies climbing up on the countertops and sending a zillion cups crashing to the floor while clumsy hands search for that perfectly pink favourite. Mommy is not always in the mood for an out of control garden hose spraying my basket of dry laundry. Mommy is not always in the mood for little voices calling “Watch me!”
My husband is awesome about this. He helps chase away the “Mom guilties” that want to come in and just bash me to pieces when I just need to be ALONE! The other night after the girls were in bed I went out for like 5 minutes to pick something up and I could’ve just laughed out loud! I felt like a FREE WOMAN! Of course when I got back 5 minutes later two little faces were peering out the window at me calling…”Mommy! Where did you go?!” Like it was the most insane thing ever that I would go somewhere without them! After all, we are pretty much inseparable…and to bring some balance to this post…I am SO thankful that I am in the position where I am able to be a stay-at-home Mom to my daughters. I truly am grateful for that, and would not change it for the world.
However…that doesn’t mean my patience level is any higher than yours and I just wanted you to know that it’s real life around here, too! Bedtime is usually one of my favourite times of the day. I love to be able to tuck them in, read stories, hear them pray and just feel connected at the end of the day. But there are some days all I want is to give a quick kiss and then BE ALONE! Days like this one can make me feel incredibly guilty, because I know there is a Mom somewhere who would love to be able to have just one more exasperating, annoying Monday! Some days I am that Mom…there are two little faces etched forever on my memory that make me ache with loneliness some days. I love my girls…but I’ve learned that nobody can be replaced. Each new little person finds their own place in my heart…a place I didn’t even know existed until they came. The one left empty will always be just that…empty…except for the memories. So I understand we need to treasure every second. Just writing that made me cry. There is a little buzz cut that used to come lay softly on my cheek every single morning and make all kinds of happy, endearing noises…and every single morning I miss that little buzz cut. There is a pair of vivid, joyful brown eyes that used to make me smile every single day as they danced to the sound of belly giggles…even on the worst days…and I miss those brown eyes every day. I did not think it would hurt this bad for so long. But I’m getting off topic. The annoyance is already starting to fade! Lol. Count your blessings, right?
But I’m not supermom.
And some days I am just plain old selfish…or didn’t get enough sleep…or it’s that time of the month. Some days I am overwhelmed by the intensity of life with two little girls who need to be loved so well.
Being a mother means you get to see the worst and best of yourself almost daily. It’s really quite the rollercoaster. I never knew how selfish I was until I got married. Then I knew. Two years later, I became a ‘mom’ for the first time and I learned my selfishness ran much deeper than I’d realized. These little people in our lives teach us so much more than we could ever imagine we didn’t know! I like to think, though, that with so much opportunity for messiness and absolute failure there is so much potential for growth! Every moment I choose to force a smile instead of a scowl, every time I choose to soften my tone…I get a zillion opportunities every day to be like Jesus! And if I fail…well…at least there are still many more chances to make it right. And the little people we learn from? They are so quick to bounce back with a smile and a hug. They will forgive every time. They will love you no matter what. After the worst day, they will still want goodnight hugs and kisses. After the fiercest tantrum they will smile and say I’m sorry before you’ve even sorted through your own mass of feelings. That is beautiful.
I’d like to think it’s ok to fail sometimes.
I like to remind myself we all get grumpy every now and then.
This is where abundant grace comes in…for my children and for ME.
Akeisha and Alexa love to hear us say we will love them no matter what. Always and forever. Some days I need to hear that from my heavenly Father, too. He will love me no matter what. Always and forever. It isn’t my acts of service or my moments of graciousness or my stunning successes that earn me His love. He loves me simply because that is who He is.
Thank you, Father
Ps. On a lighter note, the girls have been playing pirates the past few days! LOL It’s hilarious! “Arty AR AR” is apparently pirate lingo. Outfits are complete with paper eye patches, stick swords in a fabric sheath and paper hats. So adorable 🙂